When Your Reaction is to Blame Someone Else, Just Stop for a Moment

Whether it’s the noise they’re making…

The way they’re driving…

The things they’re doing…

JUST STOP

And bring the focus back to yourself…

Think about this for a moment…

Wanting to blame someone else for your discomfort simply because you’re allowing yourself to be aware of what they’re doing is the lack of taking a responsibility for yourself…

You have the power to create your world exactly the way you want it based on what you choose to focus on…

If you focus on the bad drivers…

You’ll encounter bad drivers…

If you focus on the noise someone else is making…

You’ll continually be annoyed by their noise…

If you choose to focus on something someone else is doing or saying…

You’ll continually be upset by that person…

WHAT IF YOU CHOSE TO REFOCUS AND BELIEVE THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE TO BE TRUE?

That everyone’s a good driver…

And that no one can interrupt your peace…

If that makes you say, ‘Yeah, right!’…

You have some work to do…

This comes up from time to time in my yoga class…

It’s held in a small room in a sports centre that also hosts a sports game on the court right outside the door and that has gym equipment off to the side of the main hall of the centre…

While we’re in the room with our own music playing, it’s not a perfectly quiet environment with everyone doing their thing just outside the door…

But should these other people be quiet simply because we’re choosing to do yoga at that same moment?

Is it our place to tell them to live their life on our terms simply because of what we’re choosing to do at the very same time they’re choosing to play sport or work out in the gym?

No…

It’s our responsibility to be responsible for focusing on our own peace when interracting with others…

It’s not our place to tell others what to do…

It’s our place to live and let live…

If someone is upsetting you by what they’re choosing to do at that very moment in time, it’s time to take a look inside as to why they’re triggering you…

And do the inner work to heal the part inside of you that’s not allowing the other person to just be…

The need to control others…

Because when you blame someone else for your discomfort and upset, you’re expecting that person to live their life on your terms…

Do you want other people wanting you to live your life on their terms?

It works both ways…

My partner hears our neighbour’s dogs barking…

I have to change my focus to hear them barking…

Of course, there are times when it’s possible for someone to be totally ignorant to the comfort of others and in those times, aligned action is called for…

But that’s a whole other conversation…

Don’t confuse the two…

I’m talking about the day to day irritations that is all about just letting other people be…

Allowing people to be themselves and to experience their life where they are in their part of the journey…

And for you to do the inner work and use your inner power to create your own peace in your surroundings, regardless of what someone else is doing…

Because when you don’t…

You’re living your life on their terms…

You don’t need to control other people to control your surroundings…

You have everything within you to control your environment and to create the reality you want to experience…

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Kathryn Eggins

Kathryn Eggins is an international speaker, writer, entertainer and artist, who loves colour, her cat, and following the guidance of her soul. Her desire is to inspire you to connect to your soul, take inspired action, and consciously create the life your heart desires.

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