Stuck for Gift Ideas? Here’s How You Can Become the Best Soul Aligned Gift Giver EVER!!

Become the Best Gift Giver EVER!

I pride myself on being a great gift giver…

I made a point of becoming one after I totally failed during a secret santa many years ago…

In my defence, I was 17 and totally lacking experience, but the embarrassment I felt gave me the drive to become a good…no…wait…a GREAT gift giver…

Haha….I was embarrassed, even though it was a secret santa and no one knew who gave what…

Except the person who put it all together…and that was enough!

What does a gift represent?

Is it you giving a gift to someone because it makes you feel good?

Is it you giving a gift because you have to?

Or is it you giving a gift to someone that means something?

Rule of Thumb, Number One – Don’t give a gift to someone because it makes YOU feel good…

That’s self serving…

Even if it’s a gift you’re giving because you’re a part of the Secret Santa in your office, you can still be a great gift giver…

All you need to do is take yourself out of the equation and SEE the other person…

Who are they? What do they like?

But the questions go deeper than that…

Who are they at their core? What’s their passion? What can you give them that shows them that you’ve truly seen them?

I was returning some curtains the other day (I’m converting my art studio into my even more special place in the world and these particular curtains weren’t quite right) and the woman in front of me was trying to return an item she was given at an office party…

It was a massive tray of different bottles of sauce…there was a dozen different bottles all laid out nicely in this box, but I could tell just by her energy it wasn’t her thing…

She didn’t have a receipt so the answer was an outright ‘no’…hopefully she knows someone who’s an absolute BBQ king to regift it to…

Or sell it on ebay…

There’s always options…

But when you receive a gift that blatantly screams a lack of effort, it’s deflating to your soul…

When you buy a gift based on the lense you see someone through, the same thing happens…

It’s like when you’re having a heart to heart conversation with someone about something that’s weighing you down and they counteract with their own story in an attempt to show they understand, but they don’t quite hit the mark because they were listening with an intent to answer instead of actively listening and holding space for you…

Gift giving is a great way to show someone you truly see them…

Not through your lense but for who they truly are…

That you’ve noticed those little things about them that aren’t blatantly obvious…

That you’ve noticed those little things that make their heart sing…

It doesn’t require you to go out and spend a fortune…

It could even be something you’ve made, if that fits the occasion…

Sure, you can ask someone what they would like…

But when you take the time to learn about someone, reading between the lines, hearing what they talk about, noticing what books they read…maybe they prefer audio books…and you give a gift that says directly to their heart, ‘I see you!’…

That will mean more to that person than anything else in that moment…

They will remember you because of the way you made them feel…

Because you saw them…

And THAT is what will make you THE BEST SOUL ALIGNED GIFT GIVER EVER at any time of the year!

Kathryn xx

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