Stop Overreacting! Now You’re Being Silly.

How many times have you heard these words?

How many times have those words made your feelings feel invalidated?

How many times have those words made you question yourself?

The person saying those words probably doesn’t realise how much they affect you. They probably don’t even realise that it’s their way of reining you in…

To be just like them…

To think, and act, just the way they do…

Because that’s their safe zone. That’s where they fit in and they believe that’s what’s best for them is best for you, too.

I’m not a hugger. I never have been, but over many years I’ve suffered through the need for random huggers’ to throw their arms around any warm blooded homo sapien who gets within arms’ length…

Because it was polite…

It was expected of me, and to be otherwise was considered being rude…

Think back to when we were kids…

“Go and give ** The latest friend/relative to arrive ** a hug.”

Stop telling kids to hug people when they don’t want to. They’re not overreacting. They’re listening to their soul.

I recently ventured back out to a venue. I knew a few people there and everyone was really friendly…

And huggy…

Arms were being touched. People were up close and quite personal while talking…

It made my skin crawl.

So much for COVID-safe rules. I love COVID-safe rules, because they gave me permission to be myself…

Permission to tell people I don’t want a hug and to keep their distance…

Funny thing is, I never needed permission. I don’t have to hug anyone I don’t want to and I have every right to not want people so close I can tell what they had for lunch.

I left a few people standing there with their arms out, and even had an arm struggle with someone who was quite insistant. It might have appeared rude, but that’s just a belief, only because we’re taught to hug, even if we don’t want to.

Is it overreacting? No, it’s not. It’s my body. My space.

I don’t like people in my body space because I can feel their energy. I’m focused on maintaining my energy at a level outside of where most people operate.

It doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy being around other people. I just like my space.

It also doesn’t mean I don’t like hugs, but it does mean that if I hug someone, it means something. I don’t need random hugs. I have what I need inside of me.

When have you been told by someone to stop overreacting when your reaction was you being true to your self?

Kathryn Eggins

Kathryn Eggins is an international speaker, writer, entertainer and artist, who loves colour, her cat, and following the guidance of her soul. Her desire is to inspire you to connect to your soul, take inspired action, and consciously create the life your heart desires.

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