Never Underestimate the Power of Seeing the Light that Burns Brightly in Someone Else’s Soul

Even though someone may have people around them who love them more than they could imagine…

It’s easy for someone to feel like they’re not seen and that no one cares…

Don’t ever underestimate the power in SEEING another person…

Not for who you THINK they are…

But for who they REALLY are…

At the core and through to the bottom of their soul…

What does that mean?

It means checking in with people and asking them if they’re ok, even if everything seems ok…

It means genuinely focusing on, hearing AND caring about their answer even if the subject is of no interest to you…

It means asking them questions about THEIR interests…

It means listening with an intent to listen and NOT listening with an intent to answer…

It means not telling them what you THINK they should do or giving your opinion…

It means holding a safe, confidential space for them to speak freely, as themselves and without any judgement…

It means celebrating their wins and holding them in a bright light…

It DOESN’T mean enabling someone to wallow in their self pity…

It basically means showing interest in the uniqueness of someone else, shining the light on them and empowering them…

IT’S SEEING THEM FOR WHO THEY TRULY ARE…

Not just on the surface but seeing the depths of their soul…

Loving someone is not enough…

Liking their social media posts is not enough…

People need to feel seen and that someone actually cares enough to gift them their time and FOCUS…

Think about your family…

Do you REALLY know them?

Who they are at a soul level?

What their favourite colour is?

What their aspirations are?

Do you know what excites them?

Do you know what feeds their soul?

Do you know what their concerns are?

Do you REALLY know HOW they FEEL?

When you give someone a gift, do you give them a gift for the sake of giving a gift or do you find a gift based upon who the other person TRULY is?

When I was working as a personal trainer at the gym, at Christmas time the ladies who came to my classes gave me a basket filled with dried fruit, nuts and mangoes while the gave the other staff member plum puddings. I saw these ladies three times every week for the best part of the year but their gift spoke loudly about how much they really knew me…

It showed they didn’t know me. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciated the thought and I have no doubt they liked me, enjoyed coming to the gym and enjoyed my classes and I really liked them, but it was disappointing that in all that time, no one had taken the time to get to KNOW me.

They saw me…but they didn’t SEE me…

If they had, they would have known that the last time I ate a mango I had an allergic reaction. They would also have learned that I can’t stand dried fruit…unless it’s in a plum pudding…

All they saw was a fit and healthy gym instructor and they gave a gift based upon their perception…

Being a person who believes giving gifts from the soul is important, this really hit home for me…

Giving a gift that shows you SEE someone will mean more to them than hundreds of gifts that don’t…

My point is…

Take some time to really get to know someone…

Start close to home…

Do you REALLY see your partner for WHO they are and not who you THINK they are?

Do you REALLY see your friends for WHO they are or do you see them for who you THINK they are?

Do you REALLY see your kids for WHO they are…or do you see them for who you WANT them to be?

Do you allow them to follow their own dreams or do you have them playing sports or doing activities that YOU want them to do, even if they don’t like them?

Do you REALLY see your parents? Do you know WHO they are as people or do you really just take them for granted?

When you only see people through your own perceptions and beliefs, you’re not really seeing them at all…

It doesn’t matter how much you love someone and how much you believe you’re showing them that they’re loved…

If you don’t truly SEE them…it means diddly squat…

Don’t love someone with all of your heart without focusing and seeing them and then be surprised when they up and leave or do something radical…

It’s not about dedicating all of your focus on someone else, making them your priority or trying to ‘fix’ someone…

It’s simply letting someone know that YOU SEE THEM…

If more people took the time to SEE just ONE other person, there would be a lot less heartache…

Give someone the gift of your time and take a moment to simply focus on another person and find out something you never knew about them…

Celebrate them, empower them, watch them shine…

And change a life.

Kathryn x

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