It’s OK to Be a Woman and Not Be Maternal

I watched a segment of 60 Minutes a few years ago about young couples who were choosing lifestyle over starting a family…

It piqued my interest because the thought of starting a family has never, ever entered my mind…

EVER…

Even as a kid, I never dreamed of one day getting married and starting a family…

It actually felt like a huge hand was squeezing the life out of my heart whenever I thought about it…

Like a signal from my soul that that was not my path to follow…

It never even occurred to me that some people have an issue with that…

After the 60 Minutes episode, they announced that we could continue the discussion online, so I jumped on to see what other people were saying…

The first comment I read was –

‘You’re all selfish!’

It was written by a woman who had about ten kids. She went on to say how selfish it was and that her kids would be the ones looking after us in old age…

WTF?

I’ve never, ever considered my choice not to have kids a selfish one…

It has been as much as a choice for me as to who I’m attracted to and what interests I’m drawn to…

It’s just who I am…

Some women are just not maternal…

END.OF.STORY.

Anyone who knows me knows my maternal instinct is a BIG FAT -1…

Not even a zero or a zilch…

MINUS ONE

I don’t enjoy the company of children…

I can’t stand the smell of the baby aisle in the supermarket and the smell of a room where kids congregate makes me want to puke…

And don’t get me started on cleaning bums and vomit…

I just don’t have an affiliation with kids and I don’t need them to be around me…

Give me a puppy or a kitten any day…

AND THAT’S OK

It doesn’t mean I would ever hurt one or see one in distress…

And to quote my cousin who has as much maternal instinct as I do…’No, I don’t want to hold your baby…’

I don’t find them cute and I don’t feel one bit of attraction to them whatsoever…

AND THAT’S OK

It just means my soul doesn’t need to associate with children for growth in this lifetime…

My soul has other plans…

I don’t feel a vast emptiness inside because I don’t have kids…

AND THAT’S OK

I would feel like I had betrayed my soul if I did have kids simply because society said that’s what women must do…

I would feel like I was letting my soul down because it’s not my natural instinct to do that…

It doesn’t mean I wouldn’t have been a good mother…but a part of my soul would have died if I had followed that path simply because I felt I had to because society said ‘it was the thing to do’…

Because I wouldn’t have been being true to who I am at the core…

I know some women who have kids who don’t feel maternal and they feel like it makes them a bad mother…

IT DOESN’T

You know within yourself that it doesn’t mean you love your kids any less or that you wouldn’t move heaven and earth to protect or do anything for them…

You’re just not maternal…

AND THAT’S OK

I know women who say they love their kids but if they had their time over again they wouldn’t have had them…

AND THAT’S OK

Being a woman is not an automatic indicator that you must bear children into this world if you don’t feel the inclination to…

I know women who LOVE being a mother and that’s fantastic but it doesn’t mean that that’s the right path for all women of this world…

We are all born for a different purpose and just because society says get married, buy a house and have kids doesn’t mean you have to if it doesn’t feel right for you in your heart…

STOP LETTING SOCIETY MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE LESS THAN SIMPLY BECAUSE THE WAY YOU FEEL DOESN’T FIT WITH SOCIETY’S DEFINITION OF WHAT’S ‘NORMAL’

I don’t even know why I was even called to write this post because this has never been an issue for me and I’ve never felt the pressure to even conform in this regard…

I’ve just always OWNED IT and got on with my life without giving it a second thought…

But maybe someone out there needs to hear that it is ok to not want to have kids…

That not all women are born with this burning desire to bear children and that our souls are all on a different journey…

It doesn’t matter that you’re a woman and all of your bits work and that there are other women who would give anything to have kids…

It doesn’t matter that your mother’s heart will ache for eternity if you don’t bear grand children for her…

It’s your journey…that’s their journey…

You do what’s right for you…

Follow your heart….live your life true to you and don’t let what anyone else thinks stop you from being you and doing what’s right for you.

Kathryn x

One of the things I’ve loved most about my journey into learning about the Law of Attraction is that it has brought me closer to being true to myself and who I am at the core…

That it’s ok not to be like everyone else…

That I am responsible for every aspect regarding the outcome of my life and the more I am true to my soul the easier it is to create the life that I want…

Which is why I’m excited about my program ‘Unleash Your Manifesting Mojo’. I’ve taken everything I’ve learned about the Law of Attraction and put it into this 18 day program. With daily audios and Law of Attraction Muscle building exercises to get you thinking and on your way to creating the life you were born to live.

www.kathryneggins.com/unleashyourmanifestingmojo

About The Author

Kathryn Eggins

Kathryn Eggins is a leading Law of Attraction Soul Purpose coach and mentor, writer, entertainer, artist and international speaker whose mission is to see the creative people of the world step into their inner power, to face their fears and get out there to create the life of their heart's desires

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