Don’t Listen to the White Noise… Stay Focused!

I’ve been performing at stand up comedy open mics. I’m practicing my material for my entry into a national stand up comedy competition this week…

I’m excited because it marks the 12 month mark that I started doing stand up comedy. I’ve come a long way from having no idea of what I was doing, to learning the ropes by learning from others, and just getting up and doing it…

It hasn’t come easy. There have been a lot of limiting beliefs I’ve had to work through…

Ones I’ve been aware of, and ones that others have reflected back to me as a result of their own limiting beliefs, or the goggles they view me, and the world, through…

Stepping outside your comfort zone isn’t easy…

It comes with a lot of things you need to work through… But that’s where the fun is! That’s where you get to see what you need to change inside of you to create the life that you want…

I’ve had numerous people come up and tell me what I should be doing differently…

“You shouldn’t be swearing.”

“You should say ‘this’ instead of ‘that’…”

There are people who have offered ideas that I’ve liked, mainly because they reflected back what I was thinking anyway but I’d been farting around and not implementing them…

These people were also in the know of the comedy scene. They know what they’re talking about…

Those suggestions were more like a message from the Universe to say, “Pull your finger out, and STOP FARTING AROUND!”

The people close to you are the ones who will make suggestions that don’t align with what you’re trying to do. That’s because you’re stepping outside your comfort zone, which takes them outside their comfort zone, and they want to bring you back in to how they see you, and where they feel comfortable…

People who’ve always seen me as the pretty girl who should be quiet because she’s a lady, don’t think I should be swearing…

I agree that there’s a time and a place for it, but when the time is right… I love swearing…

It feels good…

For many years, I didn’t do it… Because these other people said I shouldn’t because it would lower my standards, and what other people would think of me…

I used to even pull other people up on it!!

It’s actually quite boring living life according to other people’s standards, and beliefs…

It’s so much work!!

It doesn’t matter what other people think of you, because what they think comes from their own beliefs…

Some people close to me are horrified at my current topic of choice in my comedy… A woman who chooses to be child free, and quite honestly, doesn’t enjoy the company of children…

Interestingly enough, it gets quite a good reaction at gigs…

Because a lot of people can relate…

But some rellies are horrified!

Then there’s the people who are trying to help by offering you ideas of what you should say and do, but again, they’re looking at it from their perspective…

They’re not seeing you…

Then there’s the back handed compliments…

People who think they’re saying something positive, but again, they’re not seeing you, and they smack you down unwittingly with their words…

Recently, a woman came up to me after a show…

I know her intent was good…

She said that even though she was a mother, she could totally relate to a lot of things I was saying, and that she really enjoyed my spot…

Then she asked, after hearing me sing my comedy song, if I had considered pursuing singing instead of comedy…

She followed it up with something about “it wasn’t because your jokes were bad”… She liked them, but it’s just that I was a good singer, and that might be a better path for me to follow…

She’s not to know that I’ve been a singer, and toured the world as a singer, for the past 28 years…

She’s only seen me on stage for five minutes. It didn’t occur to her that it was something I was already doing…

What she wasn’t seeing is that I am doing stand up comedy to push myself, to do something new that I’ve never done before, and l’m learning a new craft that I’m really keen to master…

Of course, my singing is going to be better. I’ve trained, and I’ve been doing it for a long time…

It would have been so easy to take her back handed compliment personally…

To shut down my aspirations for comedy as being, “I’m not good enough.”

No!

I’m learning…

It’s only been 12 months… Give myself a break…

It’s okay to be a beginner at any stage of life…

I know I’ve come a long way since I began…

And that’s all that matters…

There was a time I wasn’t the greatest singer, either, but through practice while getting out there, and doing it, I’m now a professional…

Some people will try to compare you to someone who’s been in an industry for 30 years…

You’re allowed to be a beginner…

No one needs to be perfect right off the bat…

Even the people who are professionals now, were a beginner once…

They learned from their experiences, and you have the right to do that, too, without all of the white noise, at any time in your life…

So, if you’re trying something new, and stepping outside your comfort zone, you don’t have to listen to anyone…

Know that they mean well…

Thank them for their thoughts, and let them go…

Tune in and listen to your inner guidance to decide what’s best for you, and craft your art the way YOU want to…

Some people will get upset that you’re not taking their suggestions on board, but that’s purely because they see you in a certain light…

They want you to do what they would do, because they think that’s the best way….

Even though that’s not who you are…

You can’t be them. They’re already taken…

Of course, if someone does suggest something that is in alignment with your aspirations, by all means, take it on board…

You have the option of listening to everyone, and then YOU get to decide whether to take it, or leave it…

If someone gets upset, that’s their issue, not yours…

It happens because it’s rattled their belief system…

It may cause an upset between you and them if you don’t see things their way, but sometimes people are meant to move on because they’re not aligned to the direction you’re heading…

If you’re stepping outside your comfort zone, be prepared for things to unfold in a different way, and possibly get a bit rocky…

It gets rocky because you’re travelling ‘off road’ to get to the right path, and some things, and people, will fall away…

You have every right to stay focused on your dreams, and to do things the way you want to do them…

In the case of me doing stand up comedy, I want the opportunity to try new things and fall flat on my face… To face the silence on stage from time to time, and ‘die’ out there… So, to speak…

The learning along the way is the fun part…

That’s how you get good at stuff, and eventually you’re ‘killing’ it on stage!

When you’re learning to ride a bike, you fall off…

When you’re learning to walk, you fall over…

No one tells anyone how they should be doing these things…

Everyone knows you learn from experience…

And that’s how learning all new things should be…

Learn the concepts, how things work, implement them and then learn from your mistakes…

Stop listening to the white noise that wants to wrap you in cotton wool, and keep you safe from making mistakes…

Mistakes are good…

Take a leap of faith, and enjoy the ride of being true to your own expression!

📸 Pete Linforth from Pixabay

Kathryn Eggins

Kathryn Eggins is an international speaker, writer, entertainer and artist, who loves colour, her cat, and following the guidance of her soul. Her desire is to inspire you to connect to your soul, take inspired action, and consciously create the life your heart desires.

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